 I am so pleased to say that I recieved many answers concerning Miss Anonymous' question last week. Ladies, you were a tremendous help! Love to you all. <3 "So....Is is bad to 'like' someone? Because I have a major crush on a boy I know..." Miss Grace answers... ...I use to wonder the same thing, and by reading other Christian young ladies articles, strongly thinking and praying about it, I came to this conclusion. No, I do not believe it is wrong to "like" or having romantic feelings for a boy, God gave us these feelings, they are natural! I do believe, however, that we should not get carried away. These feelings must be kept pure and in their proper place. Every girl knows the feeling. That special someone walks into the room and your heart beats, your palms sweat, and suddenly you're at a loss for words and just sit their awkwardly. (I had that feeling just this morning *blushes* lol). Like I said, those feelings are natural. But you must remember that God has your future husband already picked out, think of him and what you're waiting for. And yes I guess there is that possibility that that guy could be the one, but usually, that's not so. Try, as hard as it may be, to put those feelings aside and think of him as a brother in Christ. Pray, and ask God to calm your nerves, and talk to him like a normal person, but still, being careful not to give your heart away carelessly. (see Proverbs 4:23.) One thing that I find really helps me, is to pray for his future wife. Yes, it can be quite painful inside because my heart screams "No! I want to be that young lady in his life!" But praying and asking God to keep my thoughts pure and focused on Him, and also praying for the guy's future wife, helps to keep my heart and feelings in it's proper place. Miss Jocelyn answers... First I would say to anonymous: “Above everything else, guard your heart; for it is the source of life’s consequences.” {Proverbs 4:23} ...It will deceive you if you put your trust in it and what its feeling. Lean on the Father’s understanding and the Spirit’s leading, and continually seek out those who will help you stay in that parameter of purity. (http://feelinfeminine.com/?p=3698) ~And then this: (http://feelinfeminine.com/?p=3198) I’ve been told, “Well, it’s natural for me to have these thoughts. What can one do?” The Scriptures says to take all thoughts captive to the Messiah. If you have feelings for someone you should be praying and studying the Scriptures for guidance. Take all those thoughts captive to Yeshua (Jesus). Don’t let your flesh and emotions run wild. Don’t keep it a secret from those who can encourage and help guard your feelings. Don’t put yourself in any position where you will be tempted or fall into sin. Tell your parents. Tell your sister. Ask them to pray for you to remain pure in thought as well in action. You’re never too old to be held accountable to someone, even just a friend. |
Miss Nela answers...
...Well, what would you feel like if your future husband was 'crushing' on someone else rather than you? It's probably best to focus your mind on other things (schoolwork, writing, playing, etc.) rather than focus on something that your not ready for yet.
Don't get me wrong, once I had this 'over the top' major 'crush' on this guy that I knew and I couldn't stop thinking about him, imagining about him, and all that stuff. One night, I got so sick of just thinking about his name, that I prayed to God too take away my desire for him to notice me. In the end, it worked! Why don't you share your thoughts in prayer to God and after you said what was on you mind stay silent, and listen for God's answer.
"Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." - Jeremiah 33:3 ;)
Miss Ra'hel answers...
Oh, how well do I know the difficulty of this! Especially within the teen years, when the World insists that being all over guys and having "crushes" and boyfriends at age two is normal. I encourage you, sister, to pray without ceasing. Our LORD knows our difficulties, as Miss Lucia mentioned in her post, and He will help you keep yourself under control if you come to Him!
Miss Caitlin answers...
My advice to you with this: go to your Mother, Sister, Father, trusted friend...ask them to pray for you in this! Also, when you are in the presence of this young man or know that you are going to be seeing him soon, simply pray beforehand. Ask God to guard your heart especially within this time. He will!
...Thank you SO much, girls, for your loving help in this matter. Please stand by for more questions regarding this topic. I will need your help and wisdom!
